A Compassionate Heart

Here are some reflections of Fr. Joachim Rego, Superior General on the Feast of St. Paul of the Cross.

“Recently, during the International Theological Congress on The Wisdom of the Cross in a Pluralistic World which our Congregation hosted at the Pontifical Lateran University in Rome, I was introduced to a woman who, as I tried to find out more in our conversation about why she was participating in the Congress, revealed that she was a medical doctor who had been working with an NGO in the Tigray region which is the northernmost regional state of Ethiopia. You may be aware that there has been an ongoing civil war in that region since the beginning of November 2020 which has left thousands dead and more than 350,000 people displaced and suffering from famine, disease and shortage of medicines. For many weeks this conflict was international headline news until some more deserving or sensational news took centre-stage. 

In our brief conversation, the lady doctor, with much emotion, said to me that no one was speaking about Tigray. She said: “There are thousands of children I was treating who are suffering terribly and who will die unless they get anti-coagulant drugs and essential medicines. We hear nothing about them.” Feeling somewhat paralysed in the face of such a statement, I said what I thought might have been the
answer. “How can we help?”, I asked. “Is there a way of sending some money to help?” 

At this, the doctor broke down in tears, without accepting my
generous offer of financial assistance and was not able to speak anymore. Struck by her love and concern for the suffering children of Tigray for whom I felt she was weeping, I could find no words to speak either, but was also choked and moved to tears myself. She simply said: “Father, my children will die because they cannot get the basic medicines and we hear nothing about them.
” With these words we parted. 

As I reflected on this encounter which moved me so much, I thought, obviously, for this woman money was not “THE” issue, nor “THE” answer. Her comportment spoke of a much deeper love, concern and connection with “her children” and people in faraway Tigray who are suffering and dying. And who is speaking about them or remembering them? Like it tends to happen, they become “the forgotten”, mere victims and statistics of war and violence, poverty and injustice, abuse and disadvantage. They are the nameless, un- fortunate and discarded in our world. “We hear nothing about them”. Usu- ally after an initial short period of focus, mainly through news outlets, which can temporarily move our hearts with sorrow and sadness, their plight disappears from the limelight, and we hear nothing much anymore…and life goes on. I couldn’t help but think of my own advantage and privilege in being assured of my supply of medicines every month to keep me comfortable, secure and breathing! 

The reaction and demeanour of this woman doctor, however, spoke to me of a person who had a HEART for those who are suffering – a heart of flesh filled with compassion, a heart that suffers with those who are suffering, a heart that weeps for those who feel abandoned. And even though she did not say why she was participating in the Congress, I understood innately that she was seeking the “wisdom” that comes from and is contained in the Cross – the power of God’s love and compassion. Her compassionate heart (fruit of the wisdom of the Cross) was in touch with and was able to reach out to “her children” in faraway Tigray, connecting her in a spiritual way with them and assuring them that they are not just statistics or forgotten, but fellow human beings who are loved and remembered as real persons with dignity: children, mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters. In this way the Memory of the Passion is kept alive. 

Of course, the essence of compassion is LOVE and, as St Paul of the Cross said: “Love is a unifying power and it makes the pain of the beloved its own.” – L.1, 489 The quality of compassion must be our brand, style, way of being, relating and acting as Passionists. However, compassion as presented in the Gospels, comes with a cost; it requires us to “suffer with” another. 

After all, the passionate (loving & suffering) heart is a prominent symbol in our spirituality and the sign which identifies us. And so, we Passionists need to
check our hearts regularly, making sure that they are not hardening, corroding or becoming insensitive to the cries, joys and sorrows of people, creation and our planet which can so easily happen in our busy, distracting and unreflective age. In prayerful contemplation, we are called to make our stance in life at the foot of the Cross where we contemplate that Crucified Heart of Jesus which does not seek pity for itself, but
instead empties itself in solidarity and compassion (suffers with) for all the ‘crucified’ of the universe. Our seeming ‘useless’ standing by the Cross re quires a strength and resilience to be present and let our heart connect with the Heart of the Crucified One, drawing from it the gift of compassion (God’s gift, not our doing). This is what enables and moves us to similarly look with pity, draw near, embrace, include, forgive and carry the lost, abandoned and forgotten of this world. We create room for them in our hearts and support them in spirit, prayer and kind.  

A reporter covering the tragic conflict in the middle of Sarajevo saw a little girl shot by a sniper. He threw down his note pad and pencil, rushed to the man holding the child, and helped them both into his car. As the reporter stepped on the accelerator, racing to the hospital, the man holding the bleeding child said: “Hurry, friend, my child is still alive.” A moment or two later he said: “Hurry, friend, my child is still breathing.” A moment later he said: “Hurry, friend, my child is still warm.” Finally, he cried: “Hurry, oh God, my child is getting cold.” When they got to the hospital, the little girl had died. Later, as the two men washed the blood off their hands and clothes, the man turned to the reporter and said: “There is a terrible task waiting for me. I must go and tell her father that his child is dead. He will be heartbroken.” The reporter was amazed. He looked at the grieving man and said: “I thought she was your child.” The man looked back and said: “They are all our children.”. 

May the Passion of Jesus be always in our hearts. 

May the blessings and prayers of St Paul of the Cross lead us to God’s Heart. 

~ Fr. Joachim Rego, C.P. Superior General 

2 thoughts on “A Compassionate Heart

  1. fdan

    Dear Father Victor, Thank you for Father Joachim Rego’s words that give us a path out of our own suffering to unite us to Christ Crucified, as well as the sufferings of others. Father Rego gives our suffering a dutiful purpose, where we learn compassion and how to love more deeply and effectively as God’s children. Thank you, Father Rego.


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